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I think this is why many subcultures have signifiers. We need a secret handshake!

I agree! Let's start a movement where we all wear a symbol of some kind. It could be made into jewelry (or even tattooed on) and other things that would be subtle, but clear to those in the know. Two signs that are similar in some way; one for doms and one for subs.

I'm not sure my post went through so I'll try again...
I know there's the site www.slaveregister.com where slaves and owners register themselves for anyone to see and they have barcodes for each slave. And they also have symbols representing owned and unowned people  and owners at http://www.cafepress.com/slaveregister/1743036

Yeeska wrote:

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So, how do you spot a submissive male? I've been surprised by the few men who have "outed" themselves to me. Some, in particular, I never would have guessed. I have great "gaydar", but I guess my "subdar" is not developed yet. Any thougts?

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I've always relied on gut feelings about a man.  Generally if I find him attractive in a "want to dominate him" kind of way, I'll insert some bdsm innuendo into flirtation and see if he bites. If he doesn't, I might try once more, and if by then he doesn't respond and flirt back about it, I generally drop it and move on.

In flirty conversation, it's almost always easy to find some double meaning in a word, a reference to "bad boys" or "needing spankings," or "don't make me get my paddle," or referring to something the man is doing by saying, "Good boy."

If I am in a particularly femdommish mood and wearing suggestive boots (which are also fashionable, not too wild, but could be seen as borderline dominatrixwear), and a man says, "Nice boots!" I may say, "Thanks! They go great with my whips and chains."  Now it's a joke, I could say, but I can usually tell by his reaction if he's intrigued or not. A man might say, "In my dreams!" or something.

The challenge isn't necessarily finding a guy willing to engage in BDSM; the challenge is differentiating between the casual "Hey wow, cool, tie me up and give me a blow job, I like kink!" and a man who is deeply submissive.  That comes later once I've established that he's genuinely interested in knowing more about my dominant side.

Akasha

 

Ms Jamie, I think you have an excellent idea. Would you prefer to see a more femine  anklet?

You're most kind. Thank you.

i've always had fantasys about meeting a Dominant Woman in a public setting.  Just it never seemed to materialize.  i guess i didn't go out specifically searching for a Fem Dom every time i went somewhere; just it happens to be something that i think about.  What if.....  etc...  But i've never met any Woman who even really gave off that vibe.  Maybe much of the Dominant/submissive interaction is saved more for private and role playing ect...  idk.  Then again, maybe most Dominant Women aren't looking for a submissive man in public so as a result They don't give off any vibe due to the fact They are Dominant already and aren't really looking?  Just Curious.