So, I have the opportunity to introduce someone to submission. I've never played with anyone truly green before and I'm having fun mulling over where to begin. He is delightfully enthusiastic and I feel like there are so many possibilities.
So, where would you start with this adventure? I hope to have a more detailed discussion with him about limits asap, but I suspect I'll have a great deal of freedom. Give me some ideas; fantasies to play with and bring to life...
Just my opinion, but have him meet You at a decent resturant or night club, (but not one that You or he frequents too often) for Your adventure to begin. As You are sitting at a table, maybe say 20 minutes in, discussing what kind of things he likes and such; pull a pair of Hot Pink Satin Panties out of Your purse or bag. Hold them up in front of his face. Tell him to go to the restroom, take his underware off, throw them away and put Your Hot pink Panties on. Now Your adventure begins. While eating or just sitting there, tell him to unzip his pants and reach down with Your hand or foot if You are across the table and play with him a little. Now he's stuck there, he can't/won't move because everyone would see the pink panties sticking out through the front of his pants. Now that You have his full attention. Tell him what it is that You want to do to him. You are the Domme, tell him what You want to accomplish. You will be able to tell by his reactions what he's capable of accomplishing for You and what may not be possible. Then take him back to Your place and have Your way with him.
Well i've been in Akasha's training program since it started on October 21st. Haven't had an orgasim in all that time and She make's everyone tease themselves daily without being allowed to cum. If You read through some of Her lessons You may get some real good ideas. Make him play with his nipples for an hour per day, make him stroke his penis to the edge 3 times a day, make sure he knows it's Your property, at least until You are done with him. If You think he can't handle stroking to the edge without cumming, then tell him he can stroke Your property with 10 strokes then he has to stop, get on his knees with his hands behind his back and say Your name 10 times. Have him do that 3 times a day until You see him. Have him tie up his **** and balls in a pink ribbon for the next couple of days. etc.... Keep him thinking about You and how You turn him on and how he can't do anything until he sees You and You allow it.
Just some ideas, please don't use these against me next time You and i have a disagreement in the forum.
Ooh what fun. Having a new "victim" is like having to peel back the layers to get to the inside. My style is more for slow seduction - no rush. If you are developing a potentially physically intimate relationship, consider being a seductress - dictacting when first kisses happen, not letting him touch you, ordering him to hold still. Make him feel objectified while telling him how exciting it is to see him helpless.
Light bondage and S&m are great starting points for me -- a pair of handcuffs and a blindfold, making him pretend to be your kidnap victim. At the start of encounters, I know my desires are always to see how a man reacts -- what is his style of vulnerability, and how can I encourage him to submit to me in a manner that satisfies my sadistic urges?
And keep us posted so we can live vicariously through your adventures!
Akasha
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When my wife and I were first together (well before we were married) we had a confession session. Night, candles, I'm tied to the bed and blindfolded. She hovered over me, crop in hand. She whipped me for several minutes as she explained that by the end of the evening she would know all my fantasies and secrets. The questions were fairly direct and simple in the beginning- When did you have your first submissive fantasies? What triggered them? If she thought I was being evasive or did not give her the whole truth she used the crop. Each time a little harder. Then she went deeper and deeper into my mind, finally having me confess my most embarassing moments and secret fantasies. She wanted all the details. I told her things I had never told another person. When she was satisfied, she told me her fantasies and let me know that my purpose was to please her. I realize this is probably not first "date" material, but it is a great way to really know what the sub is about- and for the sub to understand the mind of his Mistress. Have fun!
These are definitely some useful ideas and I will likely use them this weekend. Right now, I'm mulling over what he will be doing tonight.
You want details, Akasha? Because I'm really having a ball. This is a man who is in a profession that most people consider one of the most masculine, toughest professions to be in. This, for me, makes his submission even hotter. Unfortunately, it also means that he's currently about 90 minutes from me.
So, I've been having fun torturing him via phone, text, and email through the week, and this weekend we will meet for our first "real" scene. I've found him to be extremely open and eager and claims to have virtually no limits (save protection of career). In fact, I actually feel like he's enjoying all this too much, if that makes sense. But how far should one take things with a newbie who (at least thinks he) wants extremes?
You said he is green so he has no idea what his actual limits are. I'm not sure there is anyone who has no limits. Fantasy and reality are very different. But I'm sure you can have a lot fun fun teaching him what his limits are.
Oh, I'm under no illusions that he has no limits. But him *thinking* he has no limits makes figuring out what to test (so as to establish limits) a little overwhelming.
Seduction is the way to go, IMHO. Tying him up, teasing, keeping him on the edge: it's "light" FemDom, but at the same time it's quite intense. I think it's great for a first experience. IIt could also be useful, for example by making him confess his fantasies during the tease.
Now Your adventure begins. While eating or just sitting there, tell him to unzip his pants and reach down with Your hand or foot if You are across the table and play with him a little. Now he's stuck there, he can't/won't move because everyone would see the pink panties sticking out through the front of his pants.
Now that You have his full attention. Tell him what it is that You want to do to him. You are the Domme, tell him what You want to accomplish. You will be able to tell by his reactions what he's capable of accomplishing for You and what may not be possible. Then take him back to Your place and have Your way with him.
