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I assume my Feeldoe recommendation post did not go through because it had a link in it. So, I'll repost to just say, Google Feeldoe!

Sooo I finally did it. I took your advice and everything went perfect! Were starting slow, I want to get him used to the feeling before I bounce him around.
I ended up buying a dildo much like the feeldoe as well. Great idea!

it was unlike any sexual experience ive ever had. he was so helpless. it was rather beautiful. his masculinity was stripped in a heartbeat, and all of a sudden, he was mine. my wish became his commands. my commands became his wishes.

one time in particular stuck with me. i went in slowly and his back arched and he glaced up at me, arched his back and grunted, "please take care of me."

thats when I lost it. i had to have every piece of him.

hands down. best sex. ever.
I can only wish for every woman to be able to experience this.

i settled on a great harness friendly dildo.

i think the brand is "Vibrex" or somthing like that.

Dear MaryJane and Yeeska and any other interested people.

Hello Ladies. I'm new here, but I hope you won't mind if I ask some blunt questions on this topic.

I've been excited by strap-on sex for a long time. I fantasized about being taken this way by a woman for years before I was lucky enough to have it done to me.

Currently, I am involved with a Lady who is a strong and confident woman by nature (this is the sort of woman I am attracted to, of course) but she is only slowly getting the hang of allowing her strength and confidence to express themselves in the bedroom.

I want to buy her a strap-on. It may be a long time -- or even never -- before she actually uses it on me. But we have a rule about toys: I can buy her whatever I like, so long as it is understood that she is under NO pressure to ever use it. It goes in the toy box in the closet, and when -- or if -- it comes out is up to My Ladyship.

I have never been happy about the strap-ons that are available. I have this big theory about who mostly buys strap-ons for use on men: I think it is professional dominatrixes, and submissive men who are buying, like, 95% of them. (Oh how sweet to be the slave of one of the 5% of women who take it upon themselves to surprise their boyfriend with a strap-on!)

I think a pro-dom wouldn't really be too concerned about having a strap-on that stimulates HER. She is going to want a harness that is comfortable and durable, and she is going to want it to allow the use of multiple and different size dildos in order to accomidate multiple clients with different levels of slut-ability. A toy that gets HER off maybe isn't her first priority. I'm not saying pro-doms don't enjoy their work, but they are, after all, PROFESSIONALS. Their aim is going to be to keep the client crawling back for more.

A submissive guy -- like me -- buying a strap-on for his girlfriend is maybe going to be thinking about the size of the dildo first: big enough to make him know he's being reamed, but not so big as to send him to the emergency room if his Lady really gets excited and carried away. Next, he's going to want a harness that looks hot when his Lady is wearing it. 

But what about a strap-on that is going to turn on the woman WEARING it?

When you look at the strap-ons that are available, I think you will see why I have this theory about who is buying them. There are a lot of cheap and lousy harnesses that barely keep the Lady-dong in place. There are a lot of better quality and more expensive harnesses that do a better job, and almost always allow for different sized dildos to be fitted into them.

But why are there so few vibrating toys designed for use with a harness? And why does almost everyone who designs strap-ons seem to give more thought to the "catcher" than the "pitcher"?

I want a strap-on that will get my Lady off!

I think I am in the position of a lot of submissive men. We are involved with women who have a natural inclination to be dominant -- in the general sense of the word -- but they are still reluctant to allow this to come out in a physical way in the bedroom. Strap-on sex can be a REALLY hard thing for such a Lady to get into.

Bottom line -- I can call it "her" shaft all I want, and beg Her to do me with it, but it is still a fake dong. Unless a woman is ALREADY turned on by the idea of strap-on doing a guy, she isn't going have a positive experience if we are using an ill-designed toy that makes it an awkward or even painful thing for her to do.

Pleasing ME only goes so far. Sure, the fact that I really get off on it is an incentive, but there is nothing like the prospect of real hot screaming orgasm to motivate a Lady. I wan't HER to look at the strap-on and think, "Yea, I gotta use this thing on him tonight!"

So I am wondering, is this Feeldoe what I am looking for? I Googled them and looked at the website. Very intriguing! But I'm also puzzled by a few things.

They call it the "strapless" strap-on. Is this true? Uhh. . . how does that work? In my own experience with Lady friends and vibrators, a humming toy won't stay inside a woman for too long on it's own, not even if she is in a prone position, and especially if she is very wet with excitement.

Also, it is really important to me that She be able to walk around while wearing the strap-on. Hell, here's full disclosure: I want her to be able to use a whip on me while wearing her strap-on! The build-up to getting it is every bit as important as the act itself.

MaryJane, you mentioned that you got a harness. Do you use this with a Feeldoe? Can you tell me exactly which harness and maybe clue me in a little on how you do it? (Just stop me when these questions get, you know, personal or anything .)

I hope I can get some feedback on this. I am honestly looking for useful information here, not just looking for stroking material (not that there's anything wrong with a nice stroke of course ).

Regards, alex.

-- Edited by alex0987 on Thursday 18th of November 2010 03:28:57 AM